Siya Turns One!

Today we celebrate Siya’s first birthday! Today a year ago no pictures were taken of his birth. No Facebook posts were made to announce his arrival. No phone calls or messages to congratulate his birth mommy on the birth of her son. Even we, his family now, were unaware that our son was born. This is entirely different from Nina’s story who’s birth we anticipated and celebrated with all our family and friends.

After his birth Siya was placed at New Beginningz Baby Haven, a special baby-home in Laudium. He stayed there for the first few weeks of his life. Fortunately they take lots of pictures of the babies so we have some from those first few weeks.




Siya is a friendly and inquisitive little boy with a lovely dry sense of humour. He enjoys joking around to make us laugh. As far as temperament, he is easy-going, loving and very affectionate. Of course he loves food and can’t stand it if we are eating something that he doesn’t have! 😉

His favourite person is definitely Nina, his sister, who lights up his face in awe and adoration.




Siya has been with us 10 months now. 10 months ago I was nervous about how we will cope with this new baby in our home. How our lives would change because of our decision to go ahead with adopting a baby of another race. But we look back with hearts filled with thankful joy – God has been so good to us as a family! Both Siya and Nina are daily reminders for us of how our Heavenly Father provided for us and how we are also adopted children of God by the work of Jesus Christ.

wpid-img_20140810_125305.jpgHowever, I know that there is another mother remembering her son being born a year ago. I wish I could hug her tight today, and show her what a beautiful and happy boy he has grown up to be. And I wish I could reassure her again that he is being loved and cherished as our own begotten son. As much as we are celebrating his first birthday, this dear woman may be grieving in her loss and all we can do is pray that our Heavenly Father will comfort her and fill her with His peace. 


Happy birthday dear Siya son! We love you more than words can say and look forward to see you grow up. Our prayer for you is that you will come to know and love God and live a life worthy of the Gospel of Jesus Christ.



Why do we adopt?

There are many compelling reasons to adopt. To list only a few:

South Africa has 3.7 million orphans facing desperate circumstances. Outside the safety of a home they are neglected, alone and become victims of social evils including human trafficking and prostitution.

The best orphanage is not a home. The best caregivers are not parents. Fellow orphans are not siblings. Adoption makes all the difference to that one child.

Some couples face infertility, as we did, and adoption offers a way to be parents despite the inability to have biological children.

As opposed to abortion, what alternative other than adoption can Christians propose for mothers unable to care for their children?

Caring for orphans and the fatherless – exemplified most profoundly through adoption – reflects the Father heart of God. As the brother of Jesus makes clear,“Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.“ (James 1:27)

Even more profoundly, through adoption we reflect what God did for us through Jesus when we believe and trust in him. Before the creation of the world it was in His mind to adopt us through the work of the cross. “In love he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, to the praise of his glorious grace, with which he has blessed us in the Beloved.” (Ephesians 1:4b-6).

Is this why we adopt? Yes and no.

These are objective truths. They only become personal when they settle in our minds and convict our hearts. But even then it does not necessarily move our will.

What ultimately moved us to adopt?

A conviction, solidified over time, that this was part of God’s chosen purpose for our lives. If this is His will for us, then why would we want to be anywhere else?