Brilliant short piece on the “letting go” by all involved in the adoption process.
Adoption involves letting go.
Some let go of their dream of having children biologically. (Infertility)
Others let go of their dream of having children who look similar to them. (Transracial adoption.)
The foster moms and dads who take care of these little and not-so-little beings let go of babies they were with night and day.
We had to let go of the dream of nurturing a little one from his/her earliest hours. I wanted to watch every single moment of development myself, even with the risk of birth mother changing her mind in the allotted 60 days.
Hearing the social worker’s report that she smiles, brought a pang of pain. Why was she smiling in foster care instead of with me?
The birth mothers (and fathers sometimes) regretfully also let go.
Will you be the one who lets go of your preconceptions and receives what someone else had to let go?
I was there when our daughter’s mother, seeing her after three and a half months, told her as she let go, “Here’s your Mommy.” She let go, trusting that the gift I received would be held onto for dear life.
One day our girl will see the full picture. Not just me receiving, but the mother whose hand can be seen in this photo-letting go.
We need more people to open up their hands to receive.
* This was posted on a personal blog on Facebook, go and check out her page at Imperfect Mom of Three